HOW TO BE MORE CHARISMATIC WHEN YOU SPEAK

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One of the compliments I get fairly often after speaking or performing on stage is, “Csilla, you have such charisma when you speak. You are just a naturally captivating communicator.”

While it is extremely nice to get compliments like this, I can tell you one thing. It ain’t natural (or not all of it). 🙃

A few weeks ago I was speaking with a client of mine. I was helping her prepare for a presentation she had to give at a corporate event. During our conversation she asked me the question, “Is charisma necessary for a speaker?” Today I want to share with you what I told her. 

In the rest of this article, I want to share 3 practical strategies to help you develop more charisma.

 

This article is for you if you want to:

  • Draw people in every time you speak
  • Approach each conversation or a presentation with the right mindset to speak with charisma
  • Speak in a way that captivates the attention of your audience and connects with them  

 

 

I believe being a charismatic presenter is definitely a huge advantage for a communicator. And I would go as far as to say, yes, it’s necessary. 

Why? 

Charismatic people draw others in. They make people pay attention. They make a big impression that makes people remember them.

I know that the word charisma can feel scary for some because it can feel elusive. Like what is charisma really? And can I have it or is it given only to a select few?

So, let me help break it down for you in a way that helps you see how easy it is to become charismatic and learn some practical ways you can work on being more charismatic.

Ok, so first, what is charisma?

Plainly stated, it’s the ability to draw people in. To make people instantly like you, be attracted to you and feel comfortable in your presence.

Here’s a secret I think many people don’t know:

What makes charismatic people attractive is not something special that they have, like great hair, attractive facial features, or an impressive vocabulary. 

It’s actually the ability to put the spotlight on others. It’s the ability to make the person they are talking to feel special. 

One of the biggest things charismatic people do so well is making those around them feel like a thousand bucks.

Going into a conversation or a presentation with the mindset of, “I want to help you see how special you are” will immediately raise your charisma level. It also takes the pressure off of you feeling like you have to be something special.

Now, what are some other things that can help you develop more charisma? Here are three practical strategies:

1. Love life. Be enthusiastic. People love to be around people who are full of life. 

Just think about the people you like to be around most. I’m guessing you don’t describe them as bitter, grumpy, complaining. I’m guessing you are drawn to people who are passionate about life. I love the quote by John Wesley that says: “When you set yourself on fire, people love to come and see you burn.”

2. See the best in people. John Maxwell calls this putting a 10 on everyone’s head. Benjamin Disraeli said it best: “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” 

When you appreciate others and help them see their own potential, when you encourage them, they will love you for it.

3. Speak hope over people. When people lose hope is when life itself ends. I’m convinced of that. Hope gives us the courage to show up. Hope gives us a glimpse for a better tomorrow. 

Great communicators, charismatic ones are not only full of hope but freely share that hope with others around them. They help people see a vision that they might not yet be able to see on their own.

I hope you see that charisma IS a learnable skill. You can learn to do these three things because - guess what? - they have nothing to do with you. These three strategies I just shared are mostly other focused. When you start implementing these skills, they will help you attract people to you more than ever before.

Here’s your DREAM to DONE action step:

The next opportunity you have to connect with another human being, pick one of the steps I shared with you and use it in your conversation. 

I’d love to know what you found most helpful from this lesson! Drop a comment on YouTube or Instagram and let’s continue the conversation!

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