I was desperately working on booking singing and speaking events while changing my kid’s diaper. I was traveling a lot on weekends to sing and speak at different events.
When I was gone, I felt guilty for leaving my kiddos behind and when I was home I felt this burning desire to live out the purpose and dreams God placed on my heart a long time ago.
Needless to say, after a while I felt like a failure. I felt like I was failing both at being a mom and at being a wise #mompreneur.
I knew that I didn’t want to live this way anymore. I wanted to be home and be present when I was home. I wanted to spend intentional, focused time with my kiddos. At the same time, I also wanted to be purposeful and strategic in growing my influence and ministry.
The question that gnawed at me constantly was “How am I going to find the time and energy to do it all? Where do I even begin?”
Within 6 months of getting serious about making this family life/business deal work, I not only started to get into a routine and feel more at peace and at ease, but my business also started to generate more revenue.
I still have a now 10-year-old girl and a 6-year-old boy, and I’m still running and growing a business. So what gives? What changed?
YOU can do this too and do it without losing your mind. But before I jump into the strategies let me share this crucial thing I did before doing anything else!
I reframed my thinking!
When you are thinking about raising a thriving family and also building a successful business, it is extremely important to have a clear vision as to what you want. Where are you headed and what’s possible for you! You are not doing this alone.
One of the things I believe, we as faith-centered women take for granted is the power that is given to us through the spirit that is placed within us from God himself.
The Bible says that “All things are possible through Christ who strengthens me.” In another passage, Jesus himself says “What do you mean, ‘If I can’?” Jesus asked. “Anything is possible if a person believes.”
The passage doesn’t say EVERYTHING is possible. We can’t do everything and do it well! But anything means, that special message or thing he has called you to do is very much possible. Doing a handful of things and doing them well is very much possible.
Another favorite passage of mine says this:
“Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these because I am going to the Father. And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.” – John 14:12-14
This is basically Jesus promising his disciples (and us) that if we follow him and obediently step out into our purpose, He will be with us and He will help us accomplish even greater things than we ever imagined. This is great news!! To all of us.
So, before you do anything else I want to encourage you to start by reframing your thinking — by renewing your mind and realizing that the only limitations we have are the ones we put on ourselves. The ones we believe. Because what we believe we will live out!
what we believe we will live out!
Here are a few examples of women I look up to who have tremendous influence and great businesses and ministries while also raising a healthy family.
Natalie Grant, Christine Caine, Beth Moore, Mary Kay Ash.
There’s a whole lot more. If you don’t believe me, check out this article HERE
Yes, you might not be able to go as fast as someone who doesn’t have a family or a job and can focus 40 hours a week on their business. You might need to go slower and accept that you have other responsibilities and that you’ll need time to develop your business at a slower pace.
Still, it’s very much possible. You can make little changes that will add up over time and you can find a few extra hours a week to spend on your vision, ministry or business each week.
This is what I did. This is what I’m still doing. And these changes will help you create some extra time, too.
1. Prioritize your life
As much as I love going out with friends or attending different kinds of events, meet-ups or gatherings, I know that time is better spent with my family and working on my business each week. So, every day I make the decision to live according to my priorities, my family, and my mission. I turn down anything that is not absolutely necessary outside of my family and business.
These activities take up more time than you realize: there are planning and coordination involved, changing plans, getting ready, going to the actual event, etc. Instead, I use that time to either spend time with my family or work on my mission.
Now, don’t get me wrong, this is not easy to do. I love hanging out with friends. I used to spend about 7-8 hours a week just going to lunch meetings or coffee chats. I miss it sometimes, but I had to make a decision about what was my top priority in this season of my life.
Yes, I still hang out with my closest friends. But now I only spend about 1-2 hours a week doing that. And I have a dedicated day when I can make that happen.
2. Take advantage of short bursts of free time
We live in an age where we can grow an online platform or business from our laptops. Literally! We have the incredible advantage of being able to reach thousands or millions of people in minutes or a click of a button. We don’t have to drive to an office. We are able to work from anywhere.
That means that you can spend any little extra time you have available to take small steps in moving your impact and business forward.
In the morning while my kids are still sleeping I sneak in 1 hour of work. When I’m waiting in the doctor’s office, instead of scrolling through my social media feed, I actually take a book or notepad and either read a book related to growing my reach or take notes of ideas I have rolling around in my head. In the evening before I go to bed I take 15-30 minutes to write down my BIG 3 to-dos for the next day.
It helps me prepare well for the day ahead. When we get creative with finding and using pockets of free time well, it’s amazing how much stuff we can get done.
Time added: 3-5 hours/week
3. Block Your Time
Once I got into a routine with the strategies that I mentioned above I really started to take a closer look at how I was actually spending my precious time. First, I took a week to really track and pay attention to what I was doing during the day. Every 30 minutes my alarm would go off and I would record on a piece of paper what I did in the last 30 minutes. Let me just say, it was an eye-opener. How much time I wasted checking my email, texting or talking to a friend on the phone, on social media, doing housework because, in all honesty, I was procrastinating.
So, once I figured out that I was wasting more time than I thought, I started using time blocking. This is what I do. At the beginning of every week, I take 30 minutes on Sunday evening to sit down with my planner and plan out the week ahead. I start by adding in all the commitments we have as a family. Then I block time for Me and for work and whatever is left I will designate it toward non-essential things.
Here’s what my day usually looks like:
5:10 Sit down in my favorite spot with my coffee and have alone time (reading, praying, journaling)
6:00 Quick post to social media (pre-written)
7:30 – 9 Family and taking kids to school
2:00 Pick up Child 1 from preschool
3:30 Pick up Child 2 from school
8:15 – 9 Ready for bed and prep for tomorrow
My days don’t always look exactly like this but 85% of the time they do! Right now we are approaching summer break so I know my schedule will look a bit different.
4. Stop saying ‘YES’ to everything
Can I get on my soapbox for a moment? Ok, so I don’t know if it’s because I’m a woman or because I’m a people pleaser, but I hate saying “no” to people. And up until a few months ago, without even thinking about it, I’d commit to things I really didn’t have the time or the energy for — and in all honesty the desire to do. But saying “yes” is so much easier to do than saying “no.” And less painful. Because guess what when you start saying no to people their feelings might get hurt. They might not like you as much. And this one was extremely difficult for me to learn to do. But learning to manage your own time is critical. Everyone around you enjoys adding things to your schedule, and reducing their to-do list. The key is learning to say no without offering a long list of excuses, or whining about how busy you are. It’s never possible to satisfy everyone, so be true first to your own priorities. Start saying no. It will free up so much of your time. Trust me!
Time added: 3-4 hours/week
Success doesn’t occur in a vacuum. There’s a quote that says: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go with others.” I have seen this play out in my own life and business. One of the greatest decisions I’ve made both for my personal growth and business development was to invest in being a part of the right community: people that are ahead of me, people I look up, people who are heading in the same direction — basically other faith-centered entrepreneurs.
Why is it so important? Research shows over and over again that we are highly influenced by our peers and communities. And the influence goes both ways. If we are in a negative environment it affects us in a negative way, but if we are in a strong and vibrant environment that can also influence us in a positive way. It can push us and motivate us to move in the right direction. Here’s some research that’s been done on this topic.
The bottom line is who you hang out with MATTERS! So, choose wisely. When you choose to hang out with other #mompreneurs that want to live their lives just as intentionally as you do, guess what, that will help you stay motivated to do what is most important to you. These might be women who love their families, work hard, have a great attitude and outlook on life, women who are dreamers and doers. So, find those people. They are out there and they are probably searching for friends like you!
Thanks to these five things, I gained 14 -16 hours every week. See how that adds up?
You can gain just as much time.
Start by identifying how you can add 5 more hours to your week to grow your business.
Here are a few suggestions:
Use small pockets of free time in the mornings, nights, and on weekends. Block off some time on weekends and take time to work if you can afford it. Decide what your non-negotiables are and make a decision that anything else cannot be a priority while you build your business. (You can add these things back later)Think about when you’re most productive and shift your schedule so you can work more during those times
In less than 10 minutes, you’ll see how you can find 5 hours to free up every week. That’s 2 ½ extra workdays per month. Plus, as you start doing this, you’ll find ways to free up even more time.
Ready to try this out? Wondering where to go next? Don’t worry. I got you covered, my friend. I know the importance of following a system that WORKS!! That’s why I’m giving my 7-Step System to True Productivity away for free. I want to help you succeed in this whole life and business management thing. So, if you are serious about creating a beautiful life and a thriving business and doing all of it without breaking yourself in the process than this is for you. You can download my “Minimalistic Productivity Guide – A Simple 7-Step System” here.
I’m confident that if you start working on adding these strategies to your daily routine you will see amazing results! Not just in the growth of your business but in how you feel throughout the day and the way you are able to connect with your family, friends and be fully present in the moment.
I want to challenge you to live today on purpose and with courage while you are working on becoming all that God created you to be so you can fulfill your purpose and call.
Keep shining bright because your voice and message a so needed in the world!
Cheering for you,